“How do our early relationships shape how we connect with others?” In this Say More episode, Jesse and Lindsey explore the power of intentionality in conversation—how asking thoughtful, meaningful questions can foster deeper connections. Then, Jesse sits down with Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley, a leading expert in attachment theory and author of The Four Relationship Styles. Dr. Anita breaks down the four attachment styles—Firefighter, Investigator, Security Guard, and Networker—explaining how each one forms and impacts the way we relate to others. From childhood experiences of neglect or trauma to the strategies we develop to survive, Dr. Anita offers profound insights into how attachment patterns shape our relationships as adults. She also discusses how these styles influence our connection with God and provides guidance on healing from unhealthy attachment wounds. The episode wraps up with practical advice on how to identify your attachment style and cultivate healthier, more secure relationships.
Connect with Dr. Kuhnley: dranitakuhnley.com
Books from Dr. Kuhnley: dranitakuhnley.com/collections/all
ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
Get a copy of Mapping Your Enneagram Story.
Info about workshops:
https://RelateBetter.com/workshops/
or email workshops@relatebetter.com
CREDITS
Hosts Jesse Eubanks and Lindsey Lewis
Producer Anna Tran
This episode was edited by Anna Tran and Kevin Morris
Music for this episode comes from Lee Rosevere and Murphy D.X.
