"Honor your wife's/partner's
If you have both followed the program and done
the exercises, you should already be seeing a
significant improvement in things. You
should celebrate your improved relationship
because it takes time and effort and commitment
to change behaviors and turn around a
You should not get off the program at
this point, however, because if your
relationship has got better, it is
certain that it could be even better
than it is now.
Improving relationship skills
is like improving any other skill in life--it has
no end-point and you should get into a cycle of
acquiring new knowledge and skills and
continually improving your relationship.
You can do this in a more
informal and leisurely way than we have done in
Periodically, find a little
time as a couple to exchange views about your
relationship and whether it is going in the
direction you hoped.
The psychology of elite
performance in business, public service,
politics, sport, and the arts teaches us that
people who are the best performers continually
set themselves new goals and challenges.
So if you as a couple want to
enjoy the best possible relationship, you should
do the same.
Finally, watch this fantastic
clip from relationship expert John Gottman about
how to improve your marriage/relationship in 30