Here are some things that you
can both do to ensure that you feel in
control of what happens in the relationship:
Show respect for your
partner's needs, feelings, preferences, and
Aim to create a relationship
where you and your partner both feel empowered
and in control of decisions, and what happens in
the relationship and in your lives.
Consult your partner before
taking decisions that will affect them, and try
to reach joint decisions.
Don't try to micro-manage
your partner's behavior--allow them to decide
what to do, how to do it, and when to do it.
Do not attempt to change a
controlling partner by trying to placate or
please them as this will reinforce their
controlling behavior and make you angry and
Watch this video by Dr David
Hawkins about dealing with a control freak.