Here are some things that you
can do to achieve autonomy in the relationship:
Talk to your partner about
their career and life goals, and how you can
help them develop and reach their potential.
Discuss and agree areas of
autonomy and togetherness in your relationship.
Discuss what you each think
is the right balance of time spent together and
Try to find a balance where
you are neither too separate from one another,
nor exceptionally involved with one another.
Aim to spend a minimum of at
least 12 hours of non-sleep, non-TV time
together each week.
Bear in mind that women tend
to rely on friends and relatives, in addition to
their partner, for emotional support, whereas
men tend to rely more on their partner for most
of their support.
Watch this John Gottman video about what
distinguishes people who have masterful
relationships from people who have disastrous
relationships--"the masters and the disasters".